Ah, the curious mind of a 7-year-old! Maybe they caught you undressing, saw you in the shower, and wondered why I don’t have boobies like Mum yet? Will I get boobies like Mum too?
Well, here is the deal:
As you grow older, your body will go through some changes, just like how it has been changing since you were a baby. When girls reach a certain age, their bodies start developing breasts. It’s a natural part of growing up and becoming a young woman. It usually happens during puberty, which is still a few years away for you. So, yes, there’s a good chance you will get boobies too, but it won’t happen right away. Remember, everyone develops at their own pace, and it’s nothing to worry about. If you have any more questions about your body or growing up, I’m here to chat and provide answers. Just know that these changes are entirely normal and a part of becoming the amazing person you’re growing up to be!
What next?
Whilst I am a big advocate of using the correct terminology when describing parts of our bodies, you will notice I incorporated the language used by the child in the response. One main reason for doing this is it bridges connection and understanding with the child. Using the child’s vocabulary in your response demonstrates that you understand their question and actively listen to them. It helps create this connection and shows that you value their thoughts and feelings. Yes! Language is that important.
Notice that I answered their question without going into anything too complex about puberty. At this age, the child is seeking reassurance that the same body changes will occur for them. They are becoming aware of differences in bodies between boys and girls and between their bodies and their parents. They may also notice physical changes in older siblings or media and entertainment. This sparks their curiosity and leads them to wonder about their future development. You must understand that this question is not derived from a sexual perspective, nor is it necessarily a sign they are sexual.
Additionally, children of this age strongly desire reassurance and a sense of belonging. They may ask questions like this to seek validation and confirmation that they are growing up just like others around them. It is common for children to compare themselves to their peers and want to know what to expect regarding physical changes. The adage “Am I normal?”
Your child may ask follow-up questions or be quite happy knowing they, too, will get boobies at some stage. One child asked, will my boobies be big like my mum’s? A simple and easy way to answer regarding sizing is to reinforce that every person’s body is unique and how our bodies develop can differ. Some people will have larger breasts, while others will have smaller ones. The important thing to remember is that the size of your breasts doesn’t define your worth or who you are as a person. They are just boobies, different for every person. What matters is that you grow up healthy and happy. And as you continue to grow, so will your body in its own unique way.
Simple really is the best solution in this instance. You want to create a safe and comfortable space for ongoing conversation. Being receptive to the vocabulary used (particularly important when teenagers start using less favourable terminology) encourages them to ask more questions, seek guidance, and continue exploring topics related to their bodies and development.
